January 2013 Reflections




2013.  Here it is.  For those of you who may be just a tad superstitious, this Newsletter brings you 13 ways to start the year off on a positive note.  Firstly, I hope everyone has had a lovely Christmas and enjoyed some time relaxing.  I have just returned from Western Australia, where I spent a week exploring the beauty of the Geographe Bay and Margaret River regions, alternating between the gorgeous beaches and the lovely wineries. 

Rather than focus on the usual resolutions or goal setting in this Newsletter,  I thought I would talk about how to begin the year by looking at values and how to put these into practice.  One of the best ways I know is to start by asking yourself when you are your most happy and fulfilled.  If you have just returned from a break or are still enjoying the holiday season, you may be inclined to answer this by reference to the welcome change from the normal routine of work or your usual responsibilities.  We all benefit from holidays, but for most people it is not a permanent state.   At some point the holiday is over and we return to our regular life.  However, a new year can help motivate us to think about doing things differently.  Since I have been back at work, I have had a steady stream of new referrals with people who want to make some change in their life.  This has included finding a new job, repairing a relationship, deciding to address some difficult emotions they have been carrying around for too long, becoming more independent and exploring how to get more satisfaction in life generally.

Below I have set out 13 ideas to help you think about what changes you may want for yourself this year.

1.  Start planning your next break now.  That's right.  One way to avoid getting back in the same old routine is to plan ahead to ensure that you have a break to look forward to.  It does not need to involve spending money on a holiday, but simply to take some time out of your normal routine to recharge your batteries.


2.  Review what went well for you last year and identify any goals which have not been met and are still relevant to you.  Ask yourself how you can make some of these things happen for yourself this year.


3.   Have a self care plan.  This involves exercise, a healthy diet, good sleep pattern and a mix of fun and relaxation.  Make sure you schedule time for these activities or they won't happen.


4.   Think about your relationships.  Are there aspects of these you need to work on?  Perhaps it is time to do a stocktake on the people in your life.  If there are people who have a negative impact on you it may be time to end the relationship/friendship or to renegotiate the nature of the relationship. 


5.  Ask yourself what sort of person you aspire to be and start practising acting that way.  Use your values as your guide in this.


6.   Look at your personal development.  Do you see yourself learning and growing or do you feel you are marking time?  Identify personal changes you want to make in yourself and do something about these.


7.   Be grateful for and appreciate what you have in your life.  Avoid focusing on what is missing or what is not perfect.


8.  Don't constantly seek the approval of others.  Think about what is right for you and be honest with yourself when you make choices.


9.   Try not to compare yourself with others and what they have.  Remember you are an individual and you need to do what is right for you, not follow the crowd or constantly envy what they have achieved or possess.


10.  Try to do one new activity this year - learn a new skill, a language, play an instrument or take a hobby course.


11.  If you hate your job, do something about it.   Seek help to identify your skills and explore your options within your current workplace or outside of it. 


12.  If you are responsible for the wellbeing of others, make sure you don't neglect your own needs.  Make time to care for yourself so you have the mental and physical energy to do what you have chosen to commit to.


13.   Don't be afraid to take risks.  Remember what we fear the most is often what we need to make ourselves face up to and take action on- not avoid it.   


 I hope you can use some of these tips to assist you to think about what you want for yourself in the year ahead.  If I can be of any assistance in helping you put these ideas into practice, give me a call on 0438 855328. 


Please feel free to pass this newsletter on to anyone you believe would benefit from the ideas discussed.


              HAPPY NEW YEAR